Cause
You Act Like A B**CH!!! –
Yeah I said it, and what! Now I’m not trying to use that term in a general and
disrespectful way. I am using it in a very specific and factual way. You have
so many women that walk around with this nasty, stuck up attitude and they have
the nerve to wonder why they struggle with finding the right man. Some of them
have the audacity to cover it up by proclaiming to be a “diva”, too “classy”,
or that they are just speaking their mind. In reality you just act like a
b**ch. Some people might say, well I see plenty of women like that married or
in relationships. Don’t be fooled, she wasn’t completely showing that side in
the beginning, why? Because she is a smart b**ch : ). Either way, being a
negative person isn’t going to help you find love. Most of the men may still go
after you for séx, but if you learn to fix that attitude then you will start to
attract the right kind of man in your life.
You
Blame Men For Everything –
That is why your ass is still single. You refuse to make yourself accountable
for your actions. Everything is a man’s fault, and according to you, once they
“act right” then you will have no problem falling in line. First off, I agree
that men have contributed so much to the issues in
relationships and women in general. We as men do have a responsibility to step
up and do better. The thing is, if you aren’t willing to “step up” as well,
then we will continue to have an issue, and you will continue to find yourself
by yourself. At the end of the day, you control how you handle things. If you
are not prepared to look in the mirror then you will never realize the flaws
you have and that need improvement. So next time you want to put it all on men,
check yourself, and accept that you have a choice to do better and truly be one
of the “good women” out there.
You
Think Your Looks Will Carry You Through Life – Ok so you’re beautiful and have a nice body, great!
Problem is, if a man talks to you and finds out that there is nothing else to
you then why would he bother wanting to make you his woman. He will still want
séx (séx is always an option for men) but that’s it. Men may be more
superficial than women, but most of us still want a woman who has some kind of
personality. Make yourself a more well-rounded fun individual and more men will
want to make you their own.
You
Are A Gold Digger – ok maybe you aren’t exactly
on that level, but you have made how much he makes your top priority. You are
so caught up in dollar signs that you overlook the things that are truly important
to having and maintaining a relationship. Realize that most men are not rich,
so right there you immediately make it harder for yourself to find the right
guy. Even if a guy has money, if he sees that’s what you are mainly about he
won’t take you seriously. I’m not saying date broke men, but I am saying that
money should not be your main motivator. Have better priorities and you will
find yourself in better relationships.
You
Don’t Keep Yourself Up –
not that you have to get your nails and hair done every 2 weeks (though some of
us do like that) but you can’t always look raggedy either. I mean damn, some of
you ladies just put no real effort into how you look. Not everyone has the same
style, but good hygiene and health should be a goal for all. Most of us want
our woman to look good. As I stated earlier we men are a bit more superficial
than women, so to grab and keep our attention you need to be mindful of how you
present yourself. You know where you can improve your look, so get started on
it if you want to increase your chances of going from being one of the single
“good women” to one of the taken “good women”.
Your
Séx Is Weak! – I personally believe it is best to
wait but the reality is that most of us have or will engage in séx before we
are married. As a woman if you chose to do that, then understand that your
“skills” or lack thereof will impact a man’s willingness to make you his woman.
Unfortunately a lot of women think they are good but really the experience was
nothing to talk about. Women are quick to talk about a man’s performance while
neglecting the fact that they could use a lot of improvement as well. It
doesn’t take as much to please most men séxually, so be more open to ways you
can improve if you choose to take that route.
You’ve been Hurt – many single women reading this remain single or in dead-end relationships because you have been hurt
in your past. This hurt can be from a previous relationship, previous situation with a
man, or séxual abuse. Some of the first six reasons I listed are just
manifestations of that same hurt you are holding on to. You now operate with
walls up to protect you, but it is those same walls that continue to block the
blessings you deserve to receive. I understand how difficult it can be to move
on from these things, but if you are ever to move in the right direction as
well as into a new healthy relationship, you must begin with forgiveness. Start
the process of letting the pain go and watch how things improve.
You
keep entertaining the “wrong guy” –
you know he isn’t the one for you yet you continue to entertain this man and
his nonsense. He isn’t even giving you a full commitment but yet you are giving
him all the benefits of a real relationship. How do you expect to ever find the
“right guy” when you ALLOW yourself to continuously deal with the “wrong guy”?
You want a relationship, but you let this (single or taken) man continue to
take from you without having to fully give you what you desire in return.
You can continue to sell yourself short, but do not complain or be surprised
when you find yourself still single and more emotionally damaged than you were
before.
Your
too busy enjoying the “Single Life” –
you’re just having too much fun living it up. Maybe you like to come and go as
you please. Maybe you enjoy the free meals, outings, and for some, the bills
that get paid from your “guy friends”. If those are your reasons, I get
it, but just make sure that you aren’t using that as a front. Many women claim
to love the “single life” but in a heartbeat they would trade it in for a
genuine relationship. Yes, you should enjoy yourself while you’re single,
but that does not mean you have to act like you enjoy being single. I hope
you understand the difference. If your attitude or words say “I love being
single” then understand that this will impact a man’s willingness to come at
you with something more serious. Have fun, but be true to yourself and what you
really desire.
You
lack “positive energy”– this is
different from #1 on the list “acting like a b**ch”. Some of you may not be
negative or mean, but you still don’t give off any positive energy. If you were
a light bulb, you would be a flickering light at best. Some of this is due to
lack of self-esteem, unresolved issues that have sapped your strength, or just
taking on too much to the point where you are beat down and worn out. Whatever
the reason is, that inability to “shine bright” makes it hard for a man to be
drawn to you. Whether we show it or not, we have enough issues as it is. So if
you don’t seem like a source of enjoyment, or just come off as a big bag of
issues. We won’t be so willing to be with you. We all have things we need to
deal with, but make sure you exude some confidence and positive vibes to
increase your chances of finding the right guy.
You
haven’t met “that guy” –
shout out to the ladies that don’t settle. Shout out to the ladies that
understand that if he isn’t the right guy for you, then forcing a relationship
is pointless. I applaud you and I hope more women would take that path. The
reality is, just because you meet a “good guy” that doesn’t mean he is the
“right guy”. Continue to be patient, but make sure that the reason you haven’t
met him isn’t due to unfair requirements you have set. If “that guy” is defined
by his job, car, income bracket, and things of that nature then good luck with
that. Those things make finding him harder, and personally I think you should
focus on finding a man you connect with. Without that connection, “that guy”
will easily become “that ex” in due time.
You
Are Waiting On GOD – there are
many women who say they are just going to trust GOD and let him bring them a
man. That is great, but there is a slight problem with that. Many of those same
women take an approach of not doing anything to facilitate the process. They
wait on GOD to deliver a man as if they are waiting on a shipment from FedEx.
You still have to recognize what it is you are or are not doing correctly. If
you choose to trust GOD to bring you a man, how about finding out what GOD
needs you to do to get that man. Because if you are not the woman you need to
be then you may find yourself waiting, and waiting, and waiting. Not because
GOD can’t do his part, but because you haven’t truly tapped into doing your
part
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